Tuesday, September 2, 2014

I couldn't prove I was Kerri's mom.

On Friday I went to the doctor with the family because I had chest pains and a slight fever.  He gave me antibiotics and we agreed I would be back today by myself (because Kerri was starting school), to bring in Kerri's school paperwork that he needed to sign (permission for the school office to hold and administer her inhaler if needed).

After dropping Kerri off at school, I headed to the doctor.  I got called in, and was sitting in the room waiting patiently, when the doctor's assistant came in and told me she could not discuss the patient (my daughter Kerri) with me and would have to cancel the appointment.  I told her I was Kerri's mother, but she would not budge.  I told her the doctor knew I was coming in for the paperwork to be signed, but she refused to even discuss it.  I even told her we had done this last year.  I reminded her Kerri was a minor.  She refused me.  Ugh!  

I told her I wanted to see the doctor anyway because I was still not feeling well.  She placed the blood pressure cuff on my arm, started the machine, and left the room.  

I heard her talking to the doctor in the hall.  I could feel my blood pressure rising as my cuff inflated. I was livid.  And the machine showed just how much our little spat affected me.

She came back in, finished checking my temperature and blood sugar, and then left the room. Within minutes, our doctor came in and told me the same thing, that he could not discuss the patient with me. I just stared at him in shock.

And then he closed the door, lowered his voice, and said "Let me explain."

He told me that his assistants all had to say that now, because he has no way of knowing who has parental rights - for example, in the cases of foster kids, court appointed guardians, divorced families, nannies, etc. - and that he could get in legal trouble.

I just blinked in disbelief.  

I told him he knew us, that we had been seeing him for the past 7 years, and he saw us all last Friday. I told him I had Kerri's residency and health cards on me.  And then he crossed his arms, leaned forward, and said, "But can you prove you are her mother?"  My mouth just dropped open.  I told him that biologically, no, we did not share DNA, but that I had the adoption papers at home and would be happy to bring them in.  He laughed and said that would not be necessary today for the form, but that I had to understand why he had to implement the new rule.  

He filled out Kerri's paperwork and then we moved on to my health issues.  He sent me to get a chest Xray, in case I have pneumonia.  I was already feeling crappy when I went to his office.  But I now felt ten times worse.  Our beloved doctor, who has taken awesome care of us for the past 7 years, now has his hands tied by legal mumbo jumbo.  And apparently, we now have to walk around with Kerri's adoption records, in case we have to prove we are her parents.    

I still love our family doctor though.  

Life with Kerri got a wake up call today.

Saturday, August 30, 2014

And so it ends.

Summer vacation, that is.  It's a long holiday weekend.  Monday we will be celebrating our wedding anniversary, along with Labor Day.  And Tuesday Kerri starts 5th grade.

This weekend we are doing some last minute back to school shopping.  Apparently Kerri has grown a bit over the summer!  And her tastes have changed too.

And I am trying to rest, because I am on antibiotics for a painful lung infection.

It's been a great summer.  We celebrated Canada Day with cousin David.  We enjoyed a long overdue visit from grandpa and our niece, and sight-seeing like tourists!  We threw a somewhat surprise birthday bash for Corey, and a fun engagement party for Nana and Meg.  There was lots of swimming, lots of play dates and even a sleepover (at one point Kerri's friend said she spent more time over at our house than at her own!).  Kerri discovered Minecrack and then hooked Daddy on it.  She read lots of books (devoured them, is more like it), and discovered she is fascinated with Greek mythology.  Kerri learned how to draw faces, and enrolled in art classes.  She went to Funhaven a few times, and climbed rock walls, played laser tag, and rode in bumper cars.  Kerri went to the movies, spent time with Nana, and grew tomatoes this summer.  And Nana asked Kerri to be her Junior Bridesmaid, and that is all Kerri can talk about.

So even though we didn't really go anywhere on vacation, we have had a busy and fun summer.  It really went by so fast!

And so we need to get back on schedule.  Back to waking up early, back to packing the dreaded school lunches that Kerri never eats anyway, and planning Kerri's upcoming birthday party (because she will be ten years old in a couple of weeks!).

I am tired already.

Life with Kerri had a great summer!

Thursday, August 28, 2014

So this happened.

Kerri's friend came over for a play date wearing a bathing suit.  "Do I look fat in this bikini?" she asked.

Yeah that happened.

She is 8 years old.  And not fat at all.  Neither is her mommy, who is always talking about dieting.

So I told her she wasn't fat, but I was.

"No you're not!" she exclaimed.  I calmly told her yes I was, and that it was OK for me to say that.  She then said, "Well I don't want to be mean, so it's OK for me to tell a white lie."


I told Kerri's friend that in our house we don't lie at all.  I said that it is not appropriate to make comments about other people's appearance, but it was OK for me to say it because I was talking about myself, and that it was true, and that it was not shameful for me to be my size.

Then Kerri turned to her friend and asked, "Didn't your mom teach you that beautiful people come in all shapes and sizes?"

Life with Kerri has a plus-size heart.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Today's yummy surprise!

Today we went to the local library to return some books that Kerri had checked out.  Since she didn't find anything that interested her at the library, we headed to our local bookstore.

At the bookstore, a lovely young lady named Hannah Grace introduced herself to us.  She handed Kerri a bookmark, and invited her to take a bag of buttery popcorn off her display table.  She had Kerri at popcorn!  And then she told us she was a new author, and that this was her first book:

"The Popcorn Machine" is a fun quick read, full of rhymes and funny situations.  And Kerri absolutely loved reading her new (and autographed!) book to me all the way home.

Life with Kerri had a yummy surprise today.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

Engagement party.

Today we had the immense privilege of hosting an engagement party for our Nana and her fiancee Megan.   Nana's Mom came for the weekend to surprise Nana at the door.  It was awesome!
We were having so much fun, I didn't take any pictures.  The entire wedding party got to meet each other, along with Nana's mom and Megan's parents.
We played some fun party games, had lots of food, and celebrated these two beautiful ladies and the love they have for each other.

If the engagement party was any indication, the wedding and reception is going to be fabulous.  What a lovely bunch of people!

Life with Kerri was all about love today.

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Just ducky.

I let Kerri peruse the online Justice (girl's clothing) store.  From across the room, I heard her "ooh" and "aah" over various items.  And then I heard her exclaim: "Macaroni and Cheese Duct Tape!  I want this!"

I had to come look over her shoulder, because I couldn't believe a kid's clothing store sold duct tape to begin with.  Lo and behold, it was there (they had a SpongeBob one too).

I asked her if she even knew what duct tape was used for.  Her answer: "Taping ducks?"

Life with Kerri didn't buy a thing.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Conversations with Kerri.

After watching "How to Train Your Dragon":
Kerri: "Who names their kid Hiccup?  What kind of name is that?  What are they going to name his sister, Atchoo?"


I walked into my bathroom and found Kerri on the toilet and brushing her teeth at the same time:
Me: "Kerri, what are you doing?"
Kerri: "Multi-tasking."
I guess it starts young.

Life with Kerri ponders things.